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Do You Ever Feel Taken for Granted in Your Relationship?

When you don't get help with the details of life, you'll feel taken for granted or used. When your basic needs go unmet you don’t feel safe. When you don’t feel safe you don't have energy to be sexy. In the three roles that make up your relationship—lover, friend, and…

Rebecca S MullenJanuary 27, 2023

Marriage Understanding Yourself

Are You a Leech in Bed?

Leech love takes and steals. You can't feel pleasure when you're stealing. Pleasure comes when you let yourself receive with an open heart. A leech hides in the mud of ponds or lakes. When they sense movement, like your foot wading through the water, they attach to your skin and…

Rebecca S MullenJanuary 19, 2023

Marriage Understanding Yourself

How to Own Your Own Orgasm Part 1

Do you remember the scene in the Titanic when Rose and Jack are in the car and Rose says, “Put your hands on me, Jack?” Rose knew how to own her own orgasm. She made a clear and seductive demand, right? Young girls are taught to be good: don’t be…

Rebecca S MullenJanuary 12, 2023

Marriage Self Improvement

Tired? Three Kinds of Rest Help to Get You Launched

Are you tired? Out of gas? Grumpy in your relationship as a result? Your spouse leaves crumbs on the counter after buttering toast and you explode, “If I wasn’t always cleaning up your crumbs, we would have friends, and I’d get my book done!” Isn’t that silly? And yet you…

Rebecca S MullenSeptember 16, 2022

Communication Marriage

Date Night: Design a Fun Treasure Hunt

Which is more intriguing to you: When your spouse has a heart-stopping shock or the look on your spouse’s face as it gradual dawns on them that a surprise is unfolding? Either way, you can create a treasure hunt that will make a great memory. Today we’ll talk about ideas…

Rebecca S MullenSeptember 8, 2022

Communication Marriage

Improve Your Relationship with “Thank you.” Interaction vs Transaction

Do you feel unappreciated in your relationship? Invisible to your partner? This week’s habit for your happily ever after is to use the word "Thank you" to promote interaction with your partner. Your relationship will deepen when you use “Thank you” to interact rather than transact. When you use “Thank…

Rebecca S MullenAugust 25, 2022

Communication Marriage

Improve Your Relationship Communication: Free Class Invitation

Avoid conflict when you communicate better in your relationship. How does a simple phrase like "What should we make for dinner?" turn into a massive relationship conflict? We've all had it happen, right? You think you're asking a simple question, but your partner blows up and suddenly your tangled in…

Rebecca S MullenAugust 19, 2022

Communication Marriage

4-Minute First Aid for Your Relationship After a Fight

Bubble gum saved my marriage communication. It let my husband and me heal after our fight. It was those big square chunks: Bubble Yum, pink lemonade flavor. “It’s a race to see who blows the first bubble,” I said, doling out the gum as we got in the car. We…

Rebecca S MullenAugust 5, 2022

Communication Marriage

Non-Sexual Touch: 21 Ways to Tell Your Partner How to Touch You

Tell your partner which kind of non-sexual touch makes you feel nurtured. This list will help generate ideas for non-sexual touch in your relationship. Share it with your partner and ask them to fill it out.Try this: Screenshot sections of this list. Circle your favorite ways to be touched.…

Rebecca S MullenJuly 27, 2022

Three kinds of rest, rebound, rejuvenate, restore

Communication Marriage

Three Kinds of Rest: Rebound, Restore, Rejuvenate

Rest. Relax. What do these words mean to you? Is rest umbrella drinks on the beach, or is it more about the surfing lesson? How can these two radically different days at the beach both be restful? It depends on what kind of rest you’re trying to get. When you’re…

Rebecca S MullenJuly 8, 2022

Communication Marriage

Keeping Score? Your Marriage Will Lose

What do you keep score about in your marriage? “I’ve cleaned the kitchen the last eight times.” “We’ve only had sex three times this month.” “You go to the gym every day. We eat dinner together once a week if we’re lucky.” Can you relate? What are the topics…

Rebecca S MullenJuly 1, 2022

Communication Marriage

Date Night: A List of Ideas

Three categories of date nights to round out your relationship There are three relationships inside your singular marriage: friend, partner, and lover. The more you develop your friendship, the deeper you'll understand your spouse. Bonding with your partner secures the two of you as teammates. Playing with your lover lubricates…

Rebecca S MullenJune 29, 2022

Do You Ever Feel Taken for Granted in Your Relationship?

Are You a Leech in Bed?

How to Own Your Own Orgasm Part 1

Tired? Three Kinds of Rest Help to Get You Launched

Date Night: Design a Fun Treasure Hunt

Three Kinds of Rest: Rebound, Restore, Rejuvenate

Keeping Score? Your Marriage Will Lose

Date Night: A List of Ideas

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