Bodies tell the truth. We may not like the truth they tell, but your body doesn’t lie.
This is why you can’t “find the right words” to say something you don’t truly feel/believe. Your body will be at odds with those “right words” and the person to whom you’re talking will leave the conversation feeling confused. This is one of the primary truths that Kasia Urbaniak, author of Unbound: A Woman’s Guide to Power, is helping us understand in her book.
Today is a first on my podcast: I’ve invited you all to come and be a part of my first book club discussion:
- Our first book is called Unbound: A Woman’s Guide to Power and it’s written by Kasia Urbaniak
- We’ll talk about what makes it so difficult for so many of us women to initiate and uphold a firm boundary (hint: desire plays a much bigger role than you might realize)
- And we’ll talk about how gender has played such a big role in power as well as offer a hopeful message for normalizing power dynamics when it comes to gender roles
Your Animal Body
This is one of the primary truths that Kasia Urbaniak, author of Unbound: A Woman’s Guide to Power, is helping us understand in her book.
She guides us through locating our desire with practical and wise exercises. We need this guidance because women through the ages have been taught to be “good girls” and suppress our desires in favor of fulfilling a role in society.
The Good Girl Smush
The “good girl smush” is what Ms. Urbaniak calls that tiny piece of real estate between being not enough and being too much.
Be powerful enough to get a vision for the project, gather a group, and execute to the finish line. But don’t be so much as to question that boss who regularly presses up against you in the break room as he reaches for his coffee cup.
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Dominance and Submission
My favorite theme in this book is her conversation about dominance and submission. My understanding of these two words, after reading the book twice, talking to clients many times over, and this conversation in today’s Book Club Conversation, is ever-evolving.
Dominance = Get your focus so keenly honed on another person that you make them feel safe to open and open and open, revealing more and more about their desire/vision/dreams.
Submission = Get your focus so keenly honed on your own subjective desire then invite, invite, invite another in to your private desire/vision/dream.
Isn’t it interesting in both cases that the common theme is about focus of energy? This was my favorite part of our discussion during the Book Club.
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