What would change in your relationship if you gave yourself permission to say YES to what you desire?
May Day has always been one of my absolute favorite holidays. When I asked myself why this is, many memories came to my mind:
- The hillsides always glow green in Colorado on the first of May. It’s absolutely gorgeous.
- I remember making and delivering May Day baskets first with my mother, and later with my oldest sister, Lynn.
- Finally, I have AMAZING memories of dancing the May Pole.
In one of my favorite musicals, Camelot, Guinevere sings, “It’s May! It’s May! The day of yes you may.” When I was a kiddo, I didn’t understand all the sexual innuendo of May Day, but I DID dream about that possibility of YES. And personal agency and choice.
Now that I’m older, I look back at that little girl who only felt that possibility of truly saying YES to herself 1 day a year and it’s no wonder our culture is riddled with relationship troubles.
Your relationship is begging you to be true to yourself EVERY SINGLE day, not merely on the first of May.
Today, I want to revisit an episode from my archives. This story illustrates what happens when we get into our partner’s business rather than staying in the center of our own agency. Our own YES.
You’ll hear the very first episode I wrote for this podcast. Listening now, I’m so proud of all the work I’ve done to help Heather and Sean—the characters in today’s episode—show up differently.
- In episode 30 we talked about the Clean Ask and why asking for EXACTLY what you want actually increases intimacy
- We also talked about how much fear can pollute your relationship in episode 28
- And, of course, I wrote a whole book: 6 Steps to Better Marriage Communication by Rebecca S. Mullen
As you listen today, ask yourself, “What does my sweetheart NOT KNOW about me? What am I holding back because I’m afraid? If I allowed myself to simply say YES and give myself permission to ask my sweetheart for my truest desires, what would my sweetheart know about me that they don’t know today?”
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