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How Shame is Stealing Your Relationship’s Happily Ever After

How does shame impact the intimacy of your relationship? I realized shame was gone from my relationship on a July evening. I had carried that shame since my daughter was born. The day was hot, but our porch was cool. My husband and I were eating Cobb salads for dinner.…

Rebecca S MullenFebruary 16, 2023

Communication Marriage

Listen Effectively to Heal and Deepen Your Relationship

How to unlock relationship struggles: Truly hear what your partner needs and wants. Quick review for reference Since the beginning of the year, we examined 2 of the 3 roles inside your relationship: Remember my relationship framework Partner, Lover, Friend? The Partner strives to achieve, The Lover is…

Rebecca S MullenFebruary 9, 2023

Communication Marriage

Why “What’s for Dinner?” Causes Arguments in Your Relationship

Why does a simple question like, “What’s for dinner?” cause a relationship argument? Let's talk about why small arguments blow up into huge relationship issues. When you’re dating, and you’re both living separately, your responsibilities in life don’t overlap. Everything is in Lover-mode which inspires lots of kissing and googoo…

Rebecca S MullenFebruary 2, 2023

don't get taken for granted in your relationship

Marriage Understanding Yourself

Do You Ever Feel Taken for Granted in Your Relationship?

When you don't get help with the details of life, you'll feel taken for granted or used. When your basic needs go unmet you don’t feel safe. When you don’t feel safe you don't have energy to be sexy. In the three roles that make up your relationship—lover, friend, and…

Rebecca S MullenJanuary 27, 2023

Marriage Understanding Yourself

Are You a Leech in Bed?

Leech love takes and steals. You can't feel pleasure when you're stealing. Pleasure comes when you let yourself receive with an open heart. A leech hides in the mud of ponds or lakes. When they sense movement, like your foot wading through the water, they attach to your skin and…

Rebecca S MullenJanuary 19, 2023

Marriage Understanding Yourself

How to Own Your Own Orgasm Part 1

Do you remember the scene in the Titanic when Rose and Jack are in the car and Rose says, “Put your hands on me, Jack?” Rose knew how to own her own orgasm. She made a clear and seductive demand, right? Young girls are taught to be good: don’t be…

Rebecca S MullenJanuary 12, 2023

self-care is relationship care

How Shame is Stealing Your Relationship’s Happily Ever After

Listen Effectively to Heal and Deepen Your Relationship

Why “What’s for Dinner?” Causes Arguments in Your Relationship

Do You Ever Feel Taken for Granted in Your Relationship?

Are You a Leech in Bed?

How to Own Your Own Orgasm Part 1

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